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Ong Boy and his Diwali Gift

Even though my Mission to teach Ong Boy was accomplished successfully weeks ago, i still do visit the Home once every 2 weeks to catch up with the folks there and to give Ong Boy a lesson or two about cycling my old bicycle. This time around, i visited him with something special – a diwali hamper which was delivered to my home :)

This guy behaves just like a kid. Hehe. I told him to go share it with his friends, before he ran off with it :)
The past months have gone by and i have tried to teach Ong how to ride this bicycle, although i can admit that i have only managed to accomplish a 40% success rate in teaching him how to ride this bicycle on his own. My presence yesterday at the home brought more joy and happiness which was clearly visible in Ong compared to the very first time i step foot into this shelter.
Although I was painstakingly informed about the theft of my precious bicycle, but nevertheless the hours spent teaching him on this bicycle has indeed made the difference itself as clearly seen when i visited him yesterday. This shows that he enjoys my company more than just the lessons itself, something most members of charity homes and shelters are deprived off - attention and also love.

For me, to share the joy with these unfortunate members of this home for the mentally challenged and handicapped is something i really enjoy doing and gives me the motivation to grow even more successful so that i can further contribute back to the society. Thanks to the Truly Loving Company for providing me this platform to develop myself. I hope there are many more out there who choose to give back to the society instead of just taking – the people needs you.
HJH

Part Two: Seeing Ong Boy Smile

Time flies. It has been more than a month since i began this journey to make a difference to someone else’s life. Its was challenging for myself at the beginning, my first visit to the Shelter for the Mentally Challenged in Ampang was filled with curiosity and also fear. I didn’t know what to expect from this place as it was my very first attempt to approach patients who are suffering from such a condition. To be honest I was a little nervous at first and even scared as I entered the Shelter. The sight of these patients staring at me made me uncomfortable initially, but i slowly came to realize that they must be even more curious to see an outsider walking into their sanctuary called the “Selangor Handicapped & Mentally Retarded Children Center”.

Looking back at the first few visits, i got to interact closely with my patient Ong Boy, as he is known now. A little about him here, Ong was actually born normal, lived a normal life just like you and me till the age of 20s until he met with an accident that changed his life forever. Ong is now 33 years old, but suffers a mental syndrome that prevents him to live like a normal person. His behavior is child-like and he keeps on mumbling to himself some unknown words. However he shows expressions and reacts to others, just like a baby. Due to the lack of exercise, his limbs are under developed and weak but he is able to walk like normal.

Ong Boy once knew how to ride a bicycle all by himself, just like myself when i had this MCPB – the bicycle that gave me the freedom to be mobile and to not rely on my parents at times. I was told that this wish was highlighted as he often shows excitement whenever there is a bicycle passing by outside the shelter.

Thanks to The Truly Loving Company, i took up this pledge under their Promise Me Campaign to fulfill the wish of Ong Boy to own his very own bicycle all for himself.

So how have i contributed? Having a busy schedule on the weekdays, i chose to visit the shelter on the weekends consistently every week from the 1st of August 2010. I usually spend about 45-60 minutes to give Ong Boy a few rounds within the compound of the shelter during the afternoons or evenings. Knowing very well that my efforts alone to get him to cycle the MCPB will not be that successful, i gave the shelter helpers a lesson or two how to guide Ong Boy to fully utilize the bicycle during the weekdays when the patients are allocated a “exercise” time, or more of a play time for them. I was told that even when i am not around, Ong Boy is helped with the bicycle. One of my biggest obstacles is getting him to pedal the bike and navigate it all by himself. Due to the weakened limbs and lower leg muscles, Ong Boy is unable to cycle this MCPB on his own. Hence i provide support to him during the rounds by controlling the directions of the MCPB while i let him pedal and this itself makes him excited -this joy can be clearly seen by his facial expressions :)

Sometimes when i visit the Shelter, i do bring along with me some chocolates for the rest of the patients. This asian thinking of not going empty handed to someone elses home bugs me at times, hence i do that as a form of respect to the other patients.

Now for time to reflect on things, I do feel that more awareness has to be created to allow more people to provide their support to the needy. Once again without this Promise Me campaign, the needs of Ong Boy would surely not be highlighted and he may never get the chance to fulfill this wish of his.

What will i do from here? I will continue visiting this shelter during my free time to provide joy and happiness to Ong Boy and the rest of the patients there. After all, life is all about making a difference! My pledge does not end here, i will strive my best to make sure Ong Boy learns how to cycle this bicycle on his own with lesser supervision.

Once he has fully mastered the skill of cycling the bicycle, then i will definitely get him a much better replacement! Till then, i will keep my faith on this very own precious bicycle once used by me, now fondly known as MCPB, owned by its new owner – Ong Boy.

Stay tuned for Part Three.

HJH

Part One: Preparing the MCPB

Today the first of August signals the mark of my remarkable journey to make a difference to someone else’s life. I started the morning by taking my old mountain bike (bicycle) to the bicycle shop close to home in the car with an intention to get additional wheels mounted to the big rear wheel. I had a vision of turning this 9 year old bicycle of mine into the ultimate “mentally challenged person’s bicycle” (MCPB) so that it would provide some safety and stability for my patient Mr.Ong when he rides the bicycle.

Before that something about my bicycle, (yes its sentimental) i had it at the age of 15 or 16, at the cost of only RM200 ( it was a bargain bicycle or something). Dad was too poor to buy me those big rally ones even though i had asked for them numerous times – you see being the youngest in the family means getting used bicycles from your siblings.. and having two elder sisters in the family didn’t help in my quest to own a more “manly looking” bicycle during my childhood. So i regard this mountain bike as one of my prized possessions, one of the first few luxury items i have owned in life :)

So back to story, sadly my over ambitious idea was shot down by James the guy who owns the bicycle shop. The rusty and almost not-road-worthy 26″ mountain bike was just too big to be fitted with these additional wheels. Instead of taking things negatively and challenging his comments, rather i was impressed with his attitude when I spoke to him about my pledge of teaching my patient how to ride this bicycle. He immediately brought me inside his shop and gave me a lesson or two on ways to teach Mr.Ong how to ride a bicycle and assured me to only pay him for a new tyre, a new chain and he will help me with the rest including the modification of the bicycle to suit Mr.Ong by limiting the gear shifts, and removing all dangerous or protruding elements from the main body frame.

Amazing. This guy actually worked on the bicycle for 3 hours to get it modified and told me to go away many times. LOL. The dedication. Makes you wonder there are genuinely nice people out there who also want to contribute in some ways to the society but fail to find the opportunity to do so? :)

After 3 hours, i collected the modified bicycle. It looked brand new, new chains, new frame, new tyres and all customized to be used by a mentally challenged person. I was briefed about the new feature called the “gear limiter” and the removal of sharp and pointed edges which made the bicycle look like a chair from IKEA now! :) And so I drove it to the Home for the Mentally Challenged in Ampang. The rest i can say was history as my first attempt to teach Mr.Ong (fondly called as Ong Boy now) was successful on my very first attempt!

Wait for Part Two: Seeing “Ong Boy” Smile and Part Three: The bicycle trip :)

HJH